Army of Club Penguin

Hello ACP!

Now I understand many of you have mixed opinions of me and that I can understand. I’m a bit of a troll. But lets put that aside for a little while and look at whats been happening in our community for a few minutes. Jeez lots of anti-bullying posts makes you feel like you’re in elementary school again getting a speech from the teachers about how bullying is bad. You’d look around and see these kids dying of boredom and there would be this one kid in the bad drifting off to sleep. Yeah we’ve all been there.

So I thought “lets make a post thats pointed a bit more to middle schoolers – high schoolers because thats what we all are here”. Lets get down to the main reason why bullying is becoming a problem here on ACP chat. You see these kids at your local school (now don’t be offended if you’re not one of these kids, I’m not and I understand that we’re not all social outcasts) they’re the kids who sit alone at lunch, they’re the kids who are shunned. They look ridiculous don’t they? So you’d imagine with their tortured social life where they might go for refuse, an online community.

I screw around a lot but I don’t go looking to torture someone but some people here do. These kids you hear committing suicide on the news committed suicide because they were tortured in real life and then again online for the most part and it’s a bit depressing to hear about these kids outcasted. I know I don’t want to be the person who pushed someone over the edge that they’d want to commit suicide but some people, not intentionally could be doing that, but don’t start freaking out “I WAS MEAN TO THIS KID ONCE AND HE COULD BE DEAD FOR ALL I KNOW OMGOMGOMG MOMMMMMMM!” because unless you’re following this person around harassing them every waking hour they’re online I’m sure they’re not cutting their wrists because you said they sounded like a noob.

But you guys need to know when to stop. Lets all grow up now and figure out how to resolve this. Everything isn’t going to change if you just put a threat out there where you’ll be banned for 24 hours if you bully someone. It’s more complex than that. Sure it helps but how can we solve this problem? It’s simple. You tell someone a sad story and hopefully it scares them out of wanting to cyber bully anymore and thats just what I’m going to tell you.

Amanda Todd’s mother, Carol Todd, doesn’t want other children to suffer as her daughter did — stalked and harassed by bullies in cyberspace and in the schoolyard, by people she knew and by stalkers many miles away.

Amanda told her story in the heart-wrenching video that chronicled her nightmare: the taunts, the beating, the cyber-stalker who tracked her down whenever she tried to start afresh at a new school — firing off images that captured her showing off her young body, flattered by online attention from someone she thought was a kid just like her.  Amanda killed herself this week, one month shy of her 16th birthday and one month after telling the world through a YouTube video of bullying that left her depressed and despairing. Now Carol wants to tell her story. It is a story no mother wants to tell. “Amanda was a very caring individual. She would help others who needed help,” Carol told The Vancouver Sun during an exclusive interview Friday at her home, where she was surrounded by friends and family. “One of Amanda’s goals was to get her message out there and have it used as a learning tool for others.”

As a teacher in the Coquitlam school district and a specialist in assistive technologies, Carol is comfortable around computers and knows well the dangers the online world can hold. Still, she wasn’t able to protect her child. “I have lost one child, but know she wanted her story to save 1,000 more.” Amanda was 12 years old when she made a mistake that would haunt her until her death three years later. Her ordeal started while she was fooling around online with friends. She probably didn’t think it was risky behaviour when she lifted her top to flash the person who was flattering her at the other end of the webcam.

Amanda’s moment of indiscretion was not unusual for someone her age: Sexting and using webcams to share sexual photos is a growing trend among children, some so young they are still in grade school. “The Internet stalker she flashed kept stalking her,” said Carol. “Every time she moved schools he would go undercover and become a Facebook friend. What the guy did was he went online to the kids who went to (the new school) and said that he was going to be a new student — that he was starting school the following week and that he wanted some friends and could they friend him on Facebook.”

“He eventually gathered people’s names and sent Amanda’s video to her new school.” The video and photos went to teachers, to parents, to Facebook friends, which lead to repeated taunts: “Oh, there’s the porn star.” “It increased her anxiety and she couldn’t go to class,” Carol said. In putting together her video, which Amanda did on her own, Carol said her daughter wanted to help other young people who are being bullied and to bring attention and education to the problem in the hope of seeing it eradicated.

“Amanda wanted to tell her story to help other kids. I want to tell my story to help parents, so they can be aware, so they can teach their kids what is right and wrong and how to be safe online,” she said. “Kids have iPads, they have smartphones, technology is much more accessible than it was even five years ago — that is the dangerous factor.” When Amanda’s story and video went viral this week, the outpouring of grief from local teens left Carol unable to distinguish Amanda’s true friends from those who may have helped drive her to suicide. Carol has launched a trust fund in Amanda’s memory to raise money for anti-bullying awareness education and for support programs for youth with mental health issues.

Amanda was the victim of unrelenting blackmail. And the cyberspace stalker was aided by people in Amanda’s real-world life — kids who would share the photos on their cellphones, kids who would gang up to hurl first verbal abuse and then fists at her. “Everything she said in the video happened over the past two years,” said Carol. “It was horrendous. I think about it now and I think, ‘Oh my God. How did she survive this long with the pain?’ ”

The end, when it came, was a shock. Despite Amanda’s earlier suicide attempts, Carol said in recent days and weeks she was getting much better. She spent time in hospital in September, getting treatment and counselling. Her life was starting to return to normal, which it hadn’t been since grade 8. “She felt like a normal teenager, she was so proud of herself,” said Carol. “She went out with friends, she went to the mall, she said to me, ‘Mom, this is the first time that I feel normal again. I have had the best day ever.’”

Carol doesn’t know what caused her daughter’s setback, but Amanda may have given Carol an answer in a private video. “She left me a video message on her phone. I’m not ready to look at it yet,” said Carol. “The coroner has told me it will provide closure for me but I can’t look at it yet.” Carol doesn’t know what happened, but sometime earlier this week — before Amanda killed herself late Wednesday afternoon — something happened to shatter that fragile recovery.

The police have been unable to track her stalker down. “The police investigated and investigated, it got traced to somebody in the United States,” said Carol. “But they never found him. Those people are very good at hiding their tracks.” The suspected pedophile threatened that if she didn’t do a show for him, he would circulate her pictures again. Amanda wouldn’t bow to the pressure and he carried out his threat.

Finger-pointing at schools for not stopping bullying only angers Carol. She said Amanda, who had learning problems, had excellent support in the Coquitlam school district, where Amanda spent most of her school time.

Since March, she was a student at CABE, Coquitlam Alternate Basic Education secondary school, which is a haven for youth who, for whatever reason, need the alternative learning situation.It was there that Amanda made friends, among both the students and staff.“She had a good support network there,” said Carol. Among the teachers Amanda especially liked was former Olympic track and field star Leah Pells, who teaches physical education at the school. “She and Amanda clicked and Amanda trusted her,” said Carol.Carol is much more tech savvy than the average parent.But Amanda’s victimization at the hands of the stalker led Carol to learn more about the horrifying world of child pornography, where some victims don’t even know their images are being shown on porn sites.

“You’ll see pornography and the girls are so young,” she said. “I don’t know if the girls are doing this for kicks, if their parents are monitoring it or if they even know about it. The Amanda Todd trust fund is being held at the Royal Bank of Canada, which will be accepting donations in Amanda’s name at all its branches.

Wow that took this post from 500 words to over 1600 words. Well I didn’t expect this post to go on for that long. Oh well I’ll continue. Anyways this girl was tortured to the point of suicide. Now I know for a fact no one is taking pictures of naked soldiers in our club penguin army and posting them on facebook but what if someone as tortured as this girl came online and began getting cyber bullied?

Thats the point I’ve been trying to get across. People would laugh and say “CYA LATER” if someone announced they’re committing suicide on ACP chat, most of the time they’d be kidding, but what if they weren’t bluffing? Be careful what you say to people online. It could just put you in jail. I also know that everyone is sick of anti-bullying posts so hopefully this will be the last one. You might be trolling them but do they know that you are?

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